Category: Reflections
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Attachment Styles in the Workplace
Why Behaviour Under Pressure Is Not About Attitude In workplaces, we often interpret behaviour through the lens of motivation, professionalism, or commitment. Someone disengages, overreacts, avoids decisions, or becomes inconsistent, and we assume a lack of effort or suitability. But many of these patterns are not character flaws.They are stress responses. Attachment styles do not…
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Calm, Clear, Kind: Personal Boundaries Without Conflict
For a long time, I thought boundaries had to be sharp to be effective.Clear meant firm.Firm meant hard.And hard often meant cold. What I have learned, slowly and sometimes painfully, is that personal boundaries do not need emotional intensity to be real. They need clarity. Calm boundaries are not weak.They are regulated. When we are…
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The Emotional Impact of Abrupt Endings: A Personal Reflection.
I want to write about something quietly painful.Not to accuse.Not to analyse.Not to blame. Just to name what it felt like. Twice within a few months, the same connection ended abruptly. There was no space to stay with what was happening, no shared pause, no holding of the moment as it unravelled. What stayed with…
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The Bravest Thing I’m Doing Is Letting Go
The thing I’m most scared to do is let go of what I’ve outgrown. Not because I don’t see it.I usually do. But because letting go asks me to step into a quieter kind of courage. The kind where no one claps, no one validates it, and no one else can do it for me.…
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Calm, Clear, Kind: Dating Boundaries That Protect Your Peace
Early dating can feel exciting. It can also feel confusing. Because you are not just getting to know someone else, you are also watching yourself.How you respond.What you tolerate.What you overexplain.What you stay quiet aboutWhat you accept too early because you want it to work. That is why boundaries in early dating matter so much.…
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Calm, Clear, Kind: Professional Boundaries Without the Heat
There is a common belief that boundaries have to be sharp to be effective. If you are not firm, loud, or visibly frustrated, people will not take you seriously. But in my experience, boundaries do not need raised voices or emotional intensity to “count.” They need clarity. They need consistency. And they need respect. In…
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Waiting is not Passive. It is Preparation.
Waiting is often misunderstood. It is framed as doing nothing, as sitting still until something happens, as holding your breath for the outcome you want. But waiting is rarely empty. Waiting is preparation. Not only for the outcome you are expecting, but for the outcome you may not see coming. Because life does not always…
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When Pausing Is the Work
Stop. Think about the last time you paused.Why did you pause.Was it because something needed time to be re-evaluated.Because something no longer sat right.Or because it sat exactly right, and you wanted to move forward with intention. We often treat pausing as a failure of momentum.A sign that something has gone wrong, or that commitment…
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Why Starting Later Can Be an Advantage
There is an assumption in our culture that progress should follow a straight line.Study as a young adult. Build quickly, settle earlyWhen someone begins again later in life, it is often framed as catching up rather than moving forward. But starting later can offer something that earlier starts often do not. Perspective. When you begin…
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Flourishing in the Second Half
The WordPress daily prompt today posed a question that requires some thought. What are your thoughts on the concept of living a very long life? As I get older, the idea becomes more appealing. I am 55 years old and have just completed my nursing degree, becoming a registered nurse. In many ways, I feel…
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Becoming a Registered Nurse at 55: It’s Never Too Late to Start Over
At 55, I have just gained my nursing registration. For me, that is proof that it is never too late to begin again. For a long time, this dream sat quietly in the background of my life. At times, it was strong and clear. At other times, it was almost drowned out by the responsibilities…
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